All dressed up and to the Gym I go...

I am so loving training with my personal trainer!!!!!!

God! Where do I start?! O.k. Mind over Body-Body over Mind. They both hang together, don´t they? I have been doing this-on and off for 10 months. The first 7 months were so hard! To get my body into the whole training thing was so difficult and I felt like I had to switch the gear that I had been driving myself on -for so long-to another gear. And... I had no control of my eating habits! I had the will power of a drug addict. Food was my fix! I was the cook for my family and friends and I was making lots of food and drinking lots of good wine! I thought I was living the good life, but, in fact, I wasn´t happy about what this "good life" was doing to my body, and this made me feel all horrible! My self esteem took a dive. And the more horrible I felt about me- the more depressed I started feeling-and I became a party poop in life. I had my good days-which meant giving of myself to so many people in my life but at the end of the day-I felt miserable because I felt burned out and wasn´t happy at myself in the mirror. I felt-like I had little to give-in the end. I was on the hunt for some other stimuli! Shopping became my next fix. And when that didn´t fill me up, after a while, I did Bible Groups. The Lord then lead me to the Gym and then to the idea of seeking professional help there.

Working out with a trainer is so important to me because I needed discipline. I felt I needed guidance at the Gym and I felt that I would get more out the whole thing. Also, being a stay at home-mom, I have no rush to get things done at a certain time. I always have tomorrow. I felt -I was even compromising my training to do home stuff. He set me up on a diet (still a challenge but lots of great tips that I´ve been following) and we are working 3 hours a week. So 3 days a week I go! And in the days between, I rest or do an hour walk or a half and hour run/bike ride.

The trainer is SO PROFESSIONAL, and gives me back discipline. Out of that- I am getting discipline from my body. And...I feel so privileged to do this! It may be expensive, but, I would rather spend the money there -then in therapy!!!!!! Or...a cooking class, taking a French class or lunching or shopping! And this trainer is so smart, knows his field and is such a great motivator! I feel lucky to have him as my "Coach." I have now found the healthiest fix ever!!!!

I also love all the emotions tied into the whole training. -The getting psyched to go, the putting on the gear, the music and the moving of my body, the pain, and the accomplishments of getting stronger and quicker. And with the trainer at my side- rooting me on and waving his invisible wipp. I am so loving my attitude these days.....And I feel like I have found myself again! I feel good and I feel happier!

Skål to my trainer!

How to sell oneself

I can´t say more than enough-that the first couple of seconds after walking in that door-is the most important! The seconds set the whole session up-heading for success or not.

There is a whole lot of things I cannot do-and believe me-I may be hard on myself but at least I´m honest. I know my weaknesses but when I have a strength that I so believe in-I get passionate and unstoppable! This is one of them!

I just told a person today that when I have a goal in mind, all my body and mind are directed to this goal. Just ask my husband-I fuse everything and everyone out. (That is not a good thing) But, I do actually -for the most part, get what I want. (That´s when I know what I want.) A lot of the times, I don´t know WHAT I want, but when I do, it´s HEAVEN!

You can read "The Secret", listen to all the "How to be a success..." dvd´s and all that sort-or you can just do it-get stubborn and determined and get to know your strengths and weaknesses-and start there! You can´t sell, what you ain´t got. YOu can lie, and get there, but you won´t be there for long. But you can come prepared. And looks, I am afraid, tell for the seconds.

O.k. Back to the door. YOu got to sell your FACE, BODY, AND ATTITUDE. If you are a sports person- and you want to further yourself in this field, you do not walk in a sports outfit. You would walk in with a light blue shirt with long sleeves with a collar, nice slacks, hair, hands and face groomed. And you´d skip the perfume that day after the shower. Light blue is a great color, in my view, the best color for interviews, speeches or other gatherings where you are trying to sell yourself. Royal blue is good, as long as it´s not too bright. Red, no. Black, no. Big patterns-NO! The key word-Subtle! And good shoes with matching socks and belt. Invest in something good. You will use them for years.

POSTURE-get your back straight by putting shoulders back. And try to keep your face straight and look people in the eye when you talk. You´d be surprised how many people don´t do this. Smile with your eyes.

Ok. the first seconds are over...

For us 40 plus!

SuperModel Claudia Schiffer. http://izismile.com/img/img2/20090817/supermodels_supernatural_00.jpg

What is the whole point of my blog?

MMMmmmm.... Well, I would like to get into the whole swing of what I originally wanted to do 20 years ago. FASHION. This is so hard since I am a full time MOM, supporting wife of a successful husband, and living in a small town in Scandinavia as far from the fashion capital of any world.

These are however very accessible times. People are living through their computers-shopping, conversing, getting info, getting entertained and selling, etc. If "they" can do it, I can too!

I´ve been viewing a blog of an 18 yr. old girl who reminds me of myself "back in the days." It´s amazing and I want do that -but for women my age and my time. She has her whole life ahead. She is fresh, young, beautiful, and free. How do I compare? I can´t! The young are more beautiful and exciting and win everytime. But, we 40 year olds still got something. Fresh I may not be but I am still smelling pretty good. Mature, I am. Beautiful, I am-but have more layers of beauty. Freedom, I have not. But I have other freedoms. I do not work outside the home. I don´t have any slaves here either, so I ain´t no couch potato! I have better finances since 18, and they say the 40´s are the new 30´s. And I feel young. I want to feel good, look good, and be the best I can be. This is our time here too. "She" is wearing what my generation has created too!

With my blog, I would like to show STYLE for the 40 yr. plus-old woman and throw in some STYLE for the 40yr. plus -old man.

I have only 2 "Fans" but they happen to be the most important so we´ll see if anyone else will find my blog of interest. Time will show-until then I´ll be enjoying myself here for my two best fans! Love you guys!

"It´s all in the tude!"

Here´s me-trying my 16 yr. old daughter´s prom dress, which I loved when I bought it for her-(secretly hoping that I´d one day get it on.)

My best friend often reminds me of how smart I am...isn´t that a great BEST FRIEND? Yes, she is! In a thousand ways....

Attitude specialist?

(Corneliani suit-The Best Suit in the World!)

"Attitude Specialist" was my title name at Macy´s when I worked there (back in 1988). Had my own card and everything. I´ve always thought this was a funny title. (America loves giving everyone titles.) But I´ve always thought that it suited me because I´ve always had some kind of (extra) attitude.

When I was a kid, my parents would often be upset with me because I walked around with a "lip". -You know?! The rolling of the lip to show how upset I was with the "situation." -Like I had a chip on my shoulder. (I didn´t -just was constantly wishing I was some place interesting.

I was the class clown throughout childhood (still kind of am).

Played soccer and played rough.

Ran track and I always tried to win.

Was quite the actress. Drama queen. Loved to study people.

Played the cello by faking it. I looked the part. And I was a master of timing.

Loved fashion and that was going to be my life. Studied it as Vogue was my Bible.

All these things were specializing in my attitude.
Looking back, I see that a lot of my attitude testing was just about trying to find my place.
So, even though- back when I had the title and I was in the making- life was and is always about attitude.

Of course, there are hundreds of times when I doubt myself. But that´s o.k. -Keeps one humble, I say.
Even though one can question the definition of a "specialist"- I think it´s about trust. Trusting that another is more specialized than you are in a field and you taking on the position. Self confidence.

But for me- it´s been-more than- about the fashion. It´s the way you present yourself, and selling what you want to come across.

So...for you boys/men out there --this may be a girls blog but I worked 12 years in Men´s fashion and I know a lot about helping men give a good first impression and feeling as professional as they look.

All dressed up and...?

Why this title? Many years ago, I met a girl in the city that I hadn´t seen in a while, and she says to me; "Oh hi, all dressed up and no where to go?" Always hated that saying....so-alias the title of my blog. I always have a lot of places to go. Some may wish them upon me but I always got some place to go and it´s better getting there all dressed up.

Hehe!

Doing this for me...

Holy cow-I´m in. O.k. this is cool. It´s in the middle of the night, all is quiet, and all the lights are off and I´m sitting here in the dark in peace. Love this time.

I am a 41 yr. old woman, married, kids and working as a stay at home mom. Have few computer skills but yet, I´m here. Why? How? I have had dreams and still do.... and I think I have a lot of interesting things to write about. I am doing this for me, now.